So a lot has happened since my last post. We did move south. We moved 1700 miles from everyone and everything we know. We are 81 days in our new home. Husband is working his new job now and the boys and I are trying to get a schedule going. In our new life, Friday is our Monday and Tuesday is our Friday and it’s another new thing we have to get used to.
But let me tell you, we are loving our new life in Florida. The introvert in me was so scared about meeting new people, but I was the one who made friends first which led to Husband’s friends. We weren’t even here a week when I met Beebs who immediately adopted me into her family. A week later Husband was friends with her boyfriend and parents and a month later I was on a bus trip for her birthday. And that’s just one of the many friends we have made down here. They don’t replace the friends up there, and we can’t wait for the up there people to meet the down here people.
Our first weekend here, my parents were here helping us get settled and BOY did that help. Not only did Mom help get things unpacked, Dad and Husband “looked into things” and shopped and mostly stayed out of our hair. We got to show them some places we liked. But most importantly to me was that they liked our house and the got to see the neighborhood and know that we moved into a nice neighborhood and that although I know they will worry, they don’t have to.
Just a couple weeks later Husbands brother and sister-in-law came and stayed a night on their way home from vacation, and they got to see why we love it here. And then a week later, my FIL and his girlfriend came down too. (They winter just over an hour from us which was another selling point when we picked here to be home). So at this point, a lot of our family has seen our new home and although we don’t need their approval, it really helps both of us that they’ve been here and see at least part of what we see.
Now on to us. Oh my goodness. This is home. I say it on a regular basis, but this is home. Where we are right now feels more like home than where we were ever did to me. I don’t know how else to explain it. At the end of our first month here, I drove across the state to Miami because my best friend was turning 50 and was on a cruise in and out from there. She had an afternoon before she had to get on a plane and go home. So I drove 3 hours to spend 6 hours with her. And as much as Miami sucks (sorry if you like it. I’m not going back ever!!!), I was so happy to get to spend those hours with her. But driving home, I crossed the bridge to get home, and going over the bridge I had a big sigh of relief because I was home. I was HOME. It was the first real time I knew this was home.
I don’t know how to explain it other than this is home. It’s where we belong. I said from the beginning, when we first started talking about the move, the first trip down to look at the house, that the biggest issue we would have would be me being homesick. I’m sorry, guys, but I’m not homesick. This is home.
Don’t get me wrong. There are people that I miss seeing on a regular basis. I don’t know how to say it where it doesn’t hurt someone’s feelings, but if my mom isn’t mad at me for my words, no one else gets to be. Because overall, I’m not sad. I’m not missing people. Don’t get me wrong. Are there people that I wish were here right now? Of course there are. Are there certain people I miss more on certain days? Certainly. This is a big general not homesick statement that I hope you can all understand. And I feel like people who have made big moves will understand what I mean.
Because there is a little girl who is turning 2 this week with a party tomorrow that I’m missing, and I’m sad about that. I would love to be in Indiana for that party. And I’ve got a friend getting married in Indiana at the end of August and I’m going to miss that too. And I’m sorry for that. But overall, talking big picture, it’s more like I’m home and they are on a long vacation.
And I think that’s currently the hardest part for me. When I get a random text or comment on facebook that’s “I miss you” or “we miss you guys” and I reply “we miss you too.” And it’s because it’s the right thing to say. There are times I miss everyone, but overall we are just so happy there’s no room for homesickness. The boys and I actually talked about decorating for Christmas this week because our house has a built in shelf which is perfect for the Christmas houses that we got from Husband’s mom when she died. There’s even an outlet up there so I can plug in their lights.
So maybe when Christmas gets here I’ll get home sick. Honestly I hope not and I hope you all feel the same way for me. Because I might have moved 1700 miles away, but some things always stay the same. I talk to my mom on the phone about 5 days a week. And while I don’t see my friends every day, we text regularly. We call and Facetime. We have plans for them to visit. I know when I need them they are there. And sometimes we even get to play darts against each other from 1700 miles away.
The moral of this story is we took a giant chance and so far it’s working out. 81 days in and we are happy. We are so happy. We are home.
We found home. We are happy. I hope you all are as happy for us as we would be for you. Those of you looking for home, I hope you find it like we have. We are home. And it is good.